Violence Is Never The Answer

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When is it okay to spank your child, to slap their hand, to pull their hair, or to beat them with a stick?

According to Adrian Peterson, and millions of others, these actions are okay if your child pushes down another child, or misbehaves.

This topic angers me! It is NEVER okay to inflict pain on a child. PERIOD! Spankings are not okay. I don’t care what a child does…there are other, more effective remedies.

Adrian Peterson said he got flogged as a child. So what! That doesn’t make it okay. Now look at him. He’s flogging his child…and could end up in prison for it.

VIOLENCE IS NEVER THE ANSWER

For all you parents out there, DO NOT hit your child. How could you? How could you hit someone you love sooo much?

Instead, show patience, love, and understanding as you impose effective, non-violent discipline.

Take the time to study Early Childhood Development. Take the time to learn effective non-violent discipline measures. Isn’t your child worth it?

Sincerely,
Steven

 

PS – Do you believe hitting is an appropriate form of discipline? Lets talk about it. Comments anyone?

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5 comments

  1. Katrina Reinert

    I absolutely love this! I was a preschool teacher and the way that I would always think about it was, “Would this be an appropriate thing to do to an adult? If not, I won’t do it to a person who I’m trying to grow into an adult.” I wouldn’t find hitting anyone an appropriate response to a problem, neither does society at large…hence, prison. So I don’t know why anyone would think that it is an appropriate way to deal with a child.
    All you teach a child when you hit them, is that it is okay to hit when you are angry or upset about something that a smaller weaker person did. When you talk through your feelings and what you are thinking to a child, it teaches them that adults talk about their feelings and work through their problems.
    I feel for Adrian Peterson though. It’s hard to unlearn lessons that you learned at a young age. It takes a lot of will power and retraining of the mind to tell yourself, “That’s not okay. I can choose a better way for myself and my children.”
    I mean, goodness gracious, I just went from reading Chp. 19 of your book where you nearly bite a man’s ear off, to reading a post about acting calmly and rationally when someone was trying to pick a fight with you about your trash can. YOU’VE DONE SO MUCH MENTAL TRAINING. You’ve worked so hard to change your mindset around and away from violence. I respect that you never hurt women or children. I really respect that. And now you are changing that to nonviolence with dealing with all people.
    Let’s face it, you are more evolved than Adrian Peterson.

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    • Stone City Blog Network

      Your perspective is right on. I was hit all through my childhood. It taught me to hit whenever I got frustraited or didnt get my own way. From a young age that evil seed was planted. Over the years it was nurtured with hate, conflict, fighting, lying, stealing, and breaking the law. I had no boundaries, no structure. In an effort to correct my behavor I was hit. That only made me worse. I ended up in prison. Most men in prison were hit as a child. Hitting is never okay. Not even spankings. There are better ways.
      Thank you for your perspective on this. I appreciate your words of wisdom.

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  2. mariewilliams53

    Reblogged this on mariewilliams53 and commented:
    Stephen D Jennings post “Violence is Never the Answer” has prompted me to reinforce my view. My best Christmas present of all is to know that everyone would subscribe to this. This and my last post are really depressing, I know, especially as this is a time when we’re filled with anticipation for good times over the festive season. But I hope everyone will see that my heart is in the right place.

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  3. a white dog

    I found your blog because your wife followed my blog. I was spanked as a child. I don’t remember my mother spanking us, although she swears she did. My father “spanked” us with a belt, until I was at least 11. That, I definitely remember. My siblings and I were well-behaved (frightened) children and I thought I would spank my children, too, when I grew up and had children. I thought I had “turned out fine.” The truth is, I didn’t “turn out fine.” I grew up scared. I can’t handle conflict. On some level, I am always expecting to get “punished” for mistakes, even at work.

    The moment I had my own son I realized that I would never hit him and that hitting a child is the most ludicrous, ridiculous, cruel thing a parent could ever do. I mean really, think about those words: HIT. A. CHILD. What would ever make that okay? Nothing. Nothing would ever make that okay. As parents, our job is to protect our children, to teach them, to guide them, and to love them.

    I know that some people spank their kids with the best of intentions. And I don’t know what to say to them. I really don’t. No one wants to be told how to parent their children. This is the best I can do: If you want to teach your child that violence is wrong, then you should live your life as if you really believe violence is wrong.

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  4. Earplugsin

    Let’s hear about your childhood Steven. With your current enlightenment, can you share with us why you were the person you were back in the early days? What created that Steven Jennings?

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